Love doesn't Hurt

I can remeber being a little girl, growing up in the house with both parents. The love that we where raised in was felt in our house daily. My father was a great provider, my mother an awesome woman of faith. Some would say we grew up like the cosbys. What happens when you have dremt about havind the fairy tale wedding, a husband that would love and treat you like your father did your mother. What happens when you grew up knowing that love doesn't hurt but your experiances with relationships would determine other wise.

Often times we get into relationships broken, hurt, scared. We have insecurities from failed relationships, divorced parents, lies. We are good at hiding those insecurities while entering into the relationship but soon enough the wounds that we so carefully and strategically covered up with pretty bandages, makeup, lipstick, would come oozing out and begin to leak into the very relationship you determined would last forever.

What happens when all youve wanted was for your relationship to work, to be loved finally by a man who would see the good in you. Why couldnt men just see the Good in you. What happens when you begin to except Hurt trying to justify it to really be love. What happens when Words of love begin to turn into words of hurt. Continuously, over and over again. What happens when you find yourself believing that love really is suppose to hurt.

I can tell you what happens. The words one day become distorted as they are being lashed out at you because you've become good at tunning them out. You become so numb that now you have no feelings one way or the other about the relationship, now your just living in it. You go day to day hoping that this day brings peace. What happens when you hear the keys being turned in the door and you hope and pray that on the other side of the door for tonight isnt anger.

I learned that most times than not we attract people who carry similar hurts and pains. We stay because it becomes normal, it becomes comfortable. But what happens when you cry out for help for the both of you, God sends you help but only one puts on the life jacket and begin to swim to shore, to safety. You begin to look back as your swimming to shore begging pleading for the one you love to just put on the life vest and be saved. But what happens when you finally have to realize that for whatever reason that one you love is just not ready to be saved......

Love doesnt hurt but until you swim to shore after being rescued and your able to go through the process of learning how to swim again you wont know that its not suppose to hurt. But as God is taking you through the process of being able to trust that love really does not hurt your realize that the only person you can really save is yourself. You can pray that the one you love gets the help they need but until they take that leap of faith and put on the life vest that has been offered to them, they will continue the same cycle, drowning without a clue that thier drowning.

It doesnt mean stop praying for that person it just means that you cant allow thier brokenness to continue to cut you like a knife any longer. Love doesnt hurt but until you truly surrender your life to christ and allow his love to really take you through the process of loving again you'll never know that.

Put the life vest on, swim to shore and learn how to trust the water again. Next time you go out, you wont drown........Youll Swim....

Shalonda Inspires